I'm starting a blog today because there's tons of stuff that runs through my mind and that I experience on a daily here in Atlanta that I must share. Sometimes my experiences and escapades are too good to be true... Well, at least for a 20something grad student who's unemployed and has two more years in their master's level program.
So, here's my first rant: Geriatric Parenting.
This morning on the Today Show was a story about a 60-year-old woman who gave birth to twin boys this week. Wonderful. She's believed to be the oldest new mother in US history. Her name, Frieda Birnbaum. Now I am glad for anyone who feels they are ready for parenting. More power to you all. However, there are group of people like myself, who are not considering parenting for a while. Well, at least until they are more established financially and at a place that's comfortable within their respective careers. Love and relationships are great to have. However, money and security looks a bit more appeasing right now for me. I often worry if I will ever get married; and if so, how old will I be before I jump the broom (the plunge of death... giving one my gonads to go in a mason jar to sit on the nightstand bragging sakes) or have kids. I wouldn't mind kids. I currently have three nieces, a nephew, an official godson, several unofficial godchildren and a host of younger cousins who I treat like my siblings. So I already feel as if I have children in a weird distant way. Luckily, I don't have to change diapers or worry about childcare and other parental duties. I'm just the savior/hero whenever I am in town, and they all love to see me coming because they know my presence equates to fun time! But I often worry if I'm missing out. Am I waiting too long to embark upon a serious relationship and have a family? Is that life even for me? I know I love my youthfulness. I love being able to go when I want, eat what and where I want, and buy (when possible) whatever I want and not have to worry about another mouth to feed. Basically, I am in self mode as I pursue my educational endeavors. Plus, kids cost money. They constantly have a hand in your pocket, and being broke isn't really cute nowadays. Maybe at 10 and 12, or 18 and 21. But at my age now? People say it's okay not to be ballin out of control at my age. However, I know being broke, busted, and disgusted is not for me. I need dividends. I can't even bob my head comfortably to T-Pain's song if I know I don't have money in the bank and I have to look for someone to buy me a drink.
So I say all of that to say, maybe the 60-year-old lady and her husband in New York are on to something. Geriatric parenting could be a good look for the future...
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- This is the gateway into the world of C.Jones…Who? I am a 20-something graduate student, former journalist, on a journey to do whatever it takes to make it in this American way. After working a couple years post undergraduate school, I quit a good job at one the largest newspapers in the country. I had a decent salary and benefits, which I left to start substitute teaching and waiting tables until I got into school. Seems crazy, right? But I had a blast. Basically, I went from living it up, sort of, in Tennessee, (niece car, apartment, and livelihood) to a different type of freedom. It’s kind of like Celi in The Color Purple said, “I maybe broke and may even be ugly… but thank God I’m here.” I now live in downtown Atlanta in a lower living situation and less money. But, I’m having the time of my life.
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C.Jones...Who?, I'd say you're on to something bud. I'd never even thought about the concept of "Geriatric Parenting," but if it worked for one it can work for another. People may call it selfish, but hell, it's alright to live for you at some point in your life. I mean, you have the rest of your life (I hope) to settle down and have a family. I mean, come on...I want to know an adult life without kids/SPOUSE. They can call it selfish or self-centered all they want, but I'll be happy. Live your life young man and the rest will follow. Greatness lies ahead of you and experience lies behind you. The two of them can live a happily married life and produce credible offsprings. Go for it! They'll make a movie after you one day "The GRAND parenthood" LOL (I love it!!!!)
Hey Chris,
I've been there-done that. You are still young. Follow your heart and allow God to lead you. Love, wife and kids will come in time. No need to rush it. I was 31 when I had my first child. I am however, glad I waited. I was able to find myself before I became a full time caretaker of two. So enjoy it while you can before diapers and bottles. Life is short. And yes it cost to raise children now days. I long for the days of only having to feed and cloth myself. Things change tremendously once kids are in the pitcher.
could "srankine" be shirley? lol I agree, it does cost. I have MENTEES that are like children. And they cost! Boy aren't their parents glad to see me come and the youngins hate to see me go. But it's a part of life. I enjoying getting them "when I want them" and taking them back "when I'm tired of them." Yeah, u do get tired. So, is it "ok" for single men to adopt kids? CLJones, u should possibly do a post on that. I mean, people talk about single mothers ALL THE TIME, but nobody (or very few) talk about the single fathers. So, if I decided to adopt a son or daughter, people will have something to say because I'm single, male and God knows whatever else they'll come up with, but hey....that's just life. So, what do you think about that? Single Men Adopting Children...I can see it hit the headlines....
Okay, you are right. I hope that I had some influence in helping you make that decision. I don't think I would want to be 60 but I know that when I started at 24 and with what I am trying to give mine now, it is hard. Your family is willing to wait to see the kids that you will produce because maybe by then you will grow up. Right now they would be as silly as you are and they would swear that daddy was a big toy. My kids still think of you as a toy.
C'mon now.
Dude you'll be the first person to lose a basketball game to your 5 year old son.
I'm not saying that you should just start unloaded in chicks left and right. But just being around my little cousin I couldn't imagine not being able to teach my son sports. Or to realistically scare the shit out of the first lil' thug trying to date my daughter.
To each his own....so you can have that.
~ Ghost
You know, I am on the fence with this one. Yeah, one should wait until they are stable and less selfish to have children. On the other hand, if that comes at the age of 60, boy do we have a
problem in society today.
Anyway, since 30 is the new 20, what does that make 60? Speaking as someone who has two children. Why in the world would I torture myself with doing it all over again at 60. At that age I want to spoil my grandchildren and send them home. I believe it is my privilege to legally put my children and grandchildren out if I want to. Don't get me wrong, I love my children, but at 60 years old, if I wake up in the middle of the night I would rather be putting my breast in the mouth of a sexy, fine brotha' and not a screaming infant. (Don't hate, I know I'll still be fine at 60)!
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